Tuesday, September 19, 2017

4 Tips to Finding a Child Given Up for Adoption

Looking for a child you once gave up for adoption can be challenging in a lot of ways. There are a lot of reasons for wanting to reunite with your child. Some parents are simply curious or had a change of heart. Some may need some information regarding family history. The possibilities are endless and the process may sound taxing and impossible. But with proper guidance, you can actually find the person you’re looking for. Take a look at the following tips to help you find a child given up for adoption easily.
  1. Prepare for the search
Gathering important information about the person is the necessary first step. Get as much information as you can to help your search. Get the help of online services like Records Finder to get more information. If you worked with an adoption agency, take note of the company name and details. Remember the name you gave your child, his or her birthday, and social security number if you still have it.
Check your state law to find out if you can get identifying information that could lead you to the child. The child’s new name, who the adoptive parents are, and where they live are pieces of information you’d want to get. Of course it’s not as easily as asking the front desk about it. They’re confidential information and may require legal procedures. Some states have strict rulings about adoptions, you’re lucky if you gave up the child in a state where reuniting is allowed.

  1. Check your state registry
The state registry is where the local government holds identifying records of its citizens. You have to understand that there are different kinds of registries. There are states that have mutual consent registries. It's where registered citizens consent to having their identifying information released upon request. If your child is filed the consent registry, then you may have an easier shot at learning how to find him. Otherwise, you may have to wait. If you have access to your civil registry, things may become easier. However, note that states have varying degrees of confidentiality against releasing identifying information.
  1. Get a lawyer to help you with court petitions
If you cannot access your state registry or if your state doesn’t have one, better talk to a good family law attorney. If you can’t afford it, try looking for legal aid organizations in your area. Get help on unsealing adoption records by filing a petition to the court. As we’re talking about legal matters now, you have to be prepared financially too. Not all petitions are granted, mind you. You have to prove that you have a good cause for wanting to learn identifying information about the child. The court would most likely dismiss your case if you’re just curious about how your child is doing now.
  1. Ready yourself physically, emotionally, and financially
If you have a strong enough reason for wanting to reunite with your child, then you must be ready to defend your cause at all costs. From looking for a lawyer, drafting and filing a petition, to finally having the identifying records unsealed – it’s a journey you have to be wholly prepared for. Once the records have been disclosed, the next step is to reach out to the child. Note that reuniting doesn’t mean you can take back your child. Once you learn who the adoptive parents are, contact them first ask if they would allow you to meet with the child.


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