Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Your Baby, Your Life: Choosing the Best Godparents Possible

It’s your baby’s life, but the godparents you choose will help shape who they become and the strength of their faith. Choosing godparents is an epic responsibility - one that many parents don’t know how to cope with. Here are some ideas on how to make a choice you won’t regret later.

Spend Some Time Thinking About Your Choice
Some parents choose their own best friends as godparents. These people might be individuals who are currently a huge part of your life. But, will they always be a huge part of your life? This is difficult to know, but a good way to figure out whether a person will be around for the long haul is to think about this person’s values and how they relate to yours.

Christians don’t always get along or form life-long relationships just because they share the same faith. Friends are friends because they share the same personal, optional, values and have day-to-day compatibility.

It might be helpful to make a list of values you hold explicitly, things you do to reinforce those values, and then think about whether the person you want to be your child’s godparent shares those values.

If not, do they compliment your own values and help “fill in” in areas where you lack strength? This can also be a good sign that the person will be around for a long time in your life. Finally, asking the person directly to consider the responsibility of becoming a godparent is a good way to gauge both their seriousness and sense of commitment to the task. Make it clear that this is important to you, and that they will need to be near the child while they are growing up.

Choose Someone Who Will Be A Good Influence On The Child

Not everyone in your life will be a good influence on the child - even friends of yours may not be perfect godparents. In the broadest sense, you’re looking for an individual or couple who will help guide the child in their spiritual journey.

If you choose someone who spends a lot of money on christening gowns, for example, because they bought the most expensive or lavish gift, this isn’t really a sign that they’re committed to the child or that they have what it takes to be the child’s godparent. It just means that they’re willing to spend a lot of money.

You also don’t have to choose two people. You can choose one godparent, if you wish.

Don’t Rush It

Take your time. Consider the personal character, psychology, and values of the person whom you want to be a godparent. It’s OK if it takes you several weeks, or even several months to make a decision.

Your choice, at first, might seem obvious, but take a step back and really think about it before you make a final decision. This person will be the child’s lifelong godparent, guide, and an influential person in their lives. Sometimes, praying about it can help, or taking some time to reflect on who this person really is will ensure that you make the right choice.

"Diane Leclair is a grandmother of six and avid blogger. When she has the time, she likes to share her experiences and insights by posting online. You can read her informative and helpful articles on a variety of blogs and websites today." 


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