Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Finding Myself Again

Have you ever been in a rut? I'm not sure if it's just that I haven't been feeling well lately or I'm just "stuck" but I have lost all motivation for anything and everything. Now let me say I am not depressed at all, I just feel I have come to a cross road.

I put a few goals on my shoulders for the new year, things like; leading a more healthy lifestyle, organizing my time better, and overall figuring out in what direction I really want to go in. What I mean by that is, I have been a SAHM again for the past 2 years. As rewarding as it has been being able to spend extra time with my children, my youngest starts school next year and I’m not sure where that leaves me. Would you believe in 12 years I have not spent one day alone – in fact I don’t think I have spent more then an hour alone. This has me thinking. Would I be better off getting back into the work force or should I take some time for me?

I’ve discussed with friends and family both my fears and goals for the future, yet find advice from those close to me sometimes annoying. I really don't want that to sound mean. It's just sometime advice from loved ones just feels forced, or it's pretty useless.
 While I am someone who needs positive reinforcement and advice to guide me through, I’m also someone who would rather that advice from a stranger, or coming from someone with a little knowledge on a topic.

For example I would love to start a home based business and have tons of ideas but no one knowledgeable ( in the business sense) around me to help get me on track, and lead me down the right path.  I thought about finding someone like a Miami Life Coach. In that case I could find someone knowledgeable, who is there just to help motivate me and steer me in the right direction. I also wouldn't feel as awkward as I do asking advice from close friends or family members - nor would I feel the advice was "forced".

I just need a push I guess, either that or I need to take that gel mattress pad off my bed, because seriously I haven’t wanted to get out of bed since I bought
 Either way I’m sure I’ll update. Maybe I just a little me time, or to find that “thing” that sparks something inside me. Don't get me wrong, I love being Mom, Wife and of course Blogger. Nevertheless, now that I am going to be all alone for more then a few hours a day, I need to find me again, find what drives me....

I’m curious. How did you Moms adjust when all the kids were finally off to school?

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Pam said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Bwah, haha, I've never had time to myself so I am not the best person to give advice. However, I spend time volunteering and tutoring when I have a chance for some alone time. :)

Closer to Lucy said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

The kids being in school have just opened me up to other responsibilities. The tasks change but not the amount that has to be gotten it adds to the mommy worry pile.

slehan said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I'd second Pam's suggestion about volunteering to do something that makes you feel good. I'd also say that you could spend some alone time getting to know yourself better.

D.Calvert said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Oh you will be busy and if you want to do outside things, take a look in your community and see what little business people are interested in or things they would like, this way your close to home for your kids:) Maybe you could do something for yourself like pursue your interests and hobbies.

Samantha said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

i think you should get out of the house more. you would feel more sane

Robin Quick said...Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Believe me staying busy wont be a problem. When my youngest started school I volunteered a lot at his school. They were always needing parents to help out. It was nice to get grocery shopping & other shopping done without having a child acting up in the store or crying to get something they want. Enjoy the peace & quiet.. . treat yourself to a trip to the hair & nail salon.

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